missing my friends...

it's true what they say, you can never fully appreciate something or someone until it's gone.

now that i'm separated from my old and good friends, friends who i literally grew up with, i miss their company, even if it just means sharing a tub of cheap ice cream or a bag of chips while watching a cheesy Korean movie.

it's fun to reminisce about all the stupid things we did while we were young(er): having different crushes every week, cutting class, crying and fighting over a guy (who isn't even gwapo), having the hots for a cute professor, getting drunk the night before a big exam or orals, getting drunk and still going to class, wearing a skirt in the hopes of getting a better grade (yes, i sunk that low), cramming, surviving philo and terror professors, smoking, drinking until we literally crawled back to our rooms, maxing out credit cards and getting shocked when the bill arrived...

but it's the simple things that i miss: having lunch and making tsismis, long talks until 3am, watching cheesy movies and Sex & the City, going to church together, having lunch at that resto near gate 3 and eat sisig or chopseuy (what's the name???? pakshet!!! Ken Afford???), spending a whole hot summer afternoon by the Cervini pool, eating at Mcdo and the clubhouse, drinking at home because we didn't have money, eating squidballs along Ayala Ave, lunching out and window shopping at Landmark during Fridays, watching series during lunch...

i miss my friends.

and this blog is making me feel old.

boys, read on. swaaaaabeeeeh! XD

Link

Biblical pick-up lines (????)

OK, so I'm very delayed.

if not for terrible migraine, combined with early siesta and ibuprofen, which caused my head to spin yet prevented me from sleeping it off last night, i wouldn't have seen this movie.

yes, i cried while watching. but i don't know if it was the movie or my imploding head, or me, or everything.

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Juno: I just need to know if people can stay happy together forever…

Dad: Well, it’s not easy. That’s for sure. And I don’t have the best track record in the world I know. But I’ve been with your stepmother for 10 years now and I’m proud to say that we’re very happy.

Look, in my opinion the best thing you can do is to find the person who loves you for exactly who you are: good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what-have-you. The right person still thinks the sunshine out of your ass. That’s the kind of person worth sticking with.

Juno: Yeah, I think I have found that person.

Anyone Else But You (Moldy Peaches)

You're a part time lover and a full time friend

The monkey on you're back is the latest trend

I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else

But you

I kiss you on the brain in the shadow of a train

I kiss you all starry eyed, my body's swinging from side to side

I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else

But you

Here is the church and here is the steeple

We sure are cute for two ugly people

I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else

But you

The pebbles forgive me, the trees forgive me

So why can't, you forgive me?

I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else

But you

I will find my nitch in your car

With my mp3 DVD rumple-packed guitar

I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else

But you

Du du du du du du dudu

Du du du du du du dudu

Du du du du du du dudu du

Up up down down left right left right B A start

Just because we use cheats doesn't mean we're not smart

I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else

But you

You are always trying to keep it real

I'm in love with how you feel

I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else

But you

We both have shiny happy fits of rage

You want more fans, I want more stage

I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else

But you

Don Quixote was a steel driving man

My name is Adam I'm your biggest fan

I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else

But you

Squinched up your face and did a dance

You shook a little turd out of the bottom of your pants

I don't see what anyone can see, in anyone else

But you

Du du du du du du dudu

Du du du du du du dudu

Du du du du du du dudu du

But you

a conversation between me (10 yrs ng may BF) and a friend (ngayon lang nagka-GF. ever.). my answer doesn't suggest that i'm an expert. well, he asked. =P

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Friend: cge nga... pano ka nakasisiguro na you're in love?

Me: Hmmm. it's different for me than most people i guess.

hindi kasi ako nadadala sa bait ng lalaki, porke't magkasama kami parati, or sweet sa akin.

i look at a guy and ask myself kung kakayaniin nya ba ako, good and bad. if nakita kong maayos naman syang lalaki at kaya akong dalhin, saka ko lang ino-open up sarili ko.

it's a conscious decision for me. so i know when i'm in love.

for others it's different i guess. nasasayo un.

basta for me, it's not just kasi kinikilig ka. i guess you know when you're in love when you realize na gugustuhin mo pa rin ung tao kahit nakita mo na ung pangit nyang ugali, na kahit ganun sya mamahalin mo pa din sya.

im not a romantic e. mahirap akong ligawan.

Friend: mukha nga

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HAHAHAHAHAHA!

no time for stillness

the past year has been a ... rollercoaster ride of sorts.

i was flung from boredom, staring at my room's ceiling... to don't-have-time-to-barely-sleep, or fix my bed or my laundry. i was suddenly flung into chaos. or maybe i chose to be...

some nights, i feel myself longing for time to just stop, for the world not to move, for a chance not to think, for stillness...

LIFE...

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that
wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You
will have your heart broken probably more than once and
it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so
remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight
with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things
an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast,
and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too
many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never
been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset
is a minute of happiness you'll never get back. Don't be
afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

I am not a convenient choice.

People do not understand why I took this risk. Why I even encouraged it. Here is why:

I do not want to be chosen just because I've been here for the longest time, or because it's troublesome to look and choose, or because it's such a waste to throw away the long years together.

I do not want to be chosen just because of there's a lack of option.

Or if there are options, I want them considered. And at the end of it, if I'm chosen or not, I'll live with it. As long as I've been chosen as ME. Not for any other reason.

I don't want to be a convenient choice.

Because I'm not.

Lundagin mo, beybeh...

I couldnt sleep last night. So I was thought in the dark and asked myself yet again why I was where I was. And why B couldn't seem to understand. I realized that ever since college, I haven't really formed a "me" because I always had to consider other people: my family and B. I dont think I regret doing that, especially for B. I know I became a better person because of him. It's just the reality that led me to where I am right now. Now... when I am at the stage where I will have to decide if I want to enter a relationship that should last forever. I am scared I'll never be able to recognize me myself if I did choose that... because whether I deny it or not, one can ever be independent in marriage or any form of partnership. Yes, we could be co-dependent with our partners. But it's not the same.

The difference between me and B, even when we were still in college, he already knew what would make him happy, in terms of career and life in general. As for me, I didn't. I was a clean slate. I took in whatever life threw my way and lived with it. Looking back, I think I was happy.

However, most of the time, my life took the mold of the people important to me: family, friends, B. Even when I was a yuppie (I consider myself "un-yuppie" already), I wasn't able to form a life I could call all my own.

So to answer the questions: "what do you want? what would make you happy?"... I have no freaking idea what I want. Or what my dreams are. Or what would make me happy.

I had this conversation with a friend. I asked her how she came to the conclusion that she wanted to get married. According to her, she knew that getting married and having a kid would make her happy. So she asked me the same thing: what will make me happy? And my answer was the same: I don't freaking know. Haahhaa...

BUT would you really know what will make you happy, without actually experiencing that thing? I told her, I wouldn't know if being a mom or a wife will make me happy. Because I've never been a wife or a mom. I'll never know if seeing the world will make me happy because I've never seen the world. I'll never know if changing careers will make me happy, because I've never taken that road.

I do know that being with my family and friends makes me happy. I know I'm happy when im with B, because I spent 10 happy years with him (albeit some of it rocky in between).

I guess we don't really know. What we do know is to have faith that some things will make us happy.

I don't know what I want for my future. Right now, all I want is to slowly see myself unfolding. And when I know myself just enough to still remain "me" (no matter how dysfunctional) even in marriage, then I will choose to live the rest of my life with B (if he'll have me, of course).

Yes, despite everything and because of everything, it's him I want to be with. Because it's the one thing I'm sure that made me happy.

Will enduring a lifetime with him make me happy? I don't know.

But I have faith that it will.

remember this?

remember this?

This was taken June 2000, 2 months after graduation at San Salvador Island in Zambales. We slept on the hard papag of a humble hut owned by the caretaker of the marine sanctuary just a few feet away from the shore. I had to go on a Friday night with Rap because I was already working then (turned out to be a bad decision). Pau, Jaja, Jake were happily unemployed then.

we were so young, innocent, dreamy-eyed and hopeful...

what happened between that time and now? I guess LIFE did.

IF

got this from cyberspace. thought it would be nice to share...

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If I am what I have and if I lose what I have, who then am I?

~ Erich Fromm

Here are 30 “if statements” worth learning if you have the intentions of leading a more productive life.

1. If you don’t understand the product or service, don’t buy it until you do.
2. If you do not take ownership of your actions, your actions will eventually own you.
3. If you are not saving at least 10% of your salary, you are not saving enough.
4. If you talk too much, people will stop listening. If you don’t talk enough, people will never hear your point of view.
5. If you are lazy, you will fail. Laziness will always overshadow your true potential.
6. If you hate your job, you also hate half of the time you spend on this planet.
7. If you are not investing (120 minus your age) percent of your savings in the stock market, you are giving up thousands of dollars over the course of your lifetime.
8. If you don’t finish what you start, your success rate will always be zero.
9. If you don’t consume enough liquids, you will never be healthy.
10. If your monthly debt payments exceed 40% of your total income, you will go broke if you don’t fix your spending habits promptly.
11. If you avoid your problems, your problems will steer the course of your life.
12. If something sounds too good to be true, it is too good to be true.
13. If you are buying a brand new car every 3-5 years, stop! You are wasting your money.
14. If you don’t keep up with important current events, you will look like an idiot in front of others.
15. If you back-up on a freeway off-ramp, you increase your chances of having an accident by about 1000%. Go to the next exit and turn around.
16. If you are not learning something new every day, you are wasting away days of your life.
17. If you threaten to quit your job, even if it’s a subtle suggestion, you better be ready to leave now.
18. If somebody asks you for your social security number, don’t give it to them!
19. If you are paying high monthly insurance premiums for a lower claim deductible, you are pissing in the wind.
20. If you don’t ever intend to help others, expect them to return the favor.
21. If you don’t learn from your mistakes, you probably aren’t learning much at all.
22. If you don’t dream, you will live solely as an entity of someone else’s dreams.
23. If you are ever confused, don’t be afraid to ask questions.
24. If you don’t listen to good music while exercising, you are missing out on the best part of your workout.
25. If you are not happy, it’s time to change something.
26. If you never stare off into the distance, you’ll never get there.
27. If you dress a certain way, people will treat you a certain way.
28. If you never try something new, your life’s story will be boring.
29. If you aren’t in love, don’t settle.
30. If you are overly emotional right now, make the decision later.

IF

got this from cyberspace. thought it would be nice to share...

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If I am what I have and if I lose what I have, who then am I?

- Erich Fromm

Here are 30 “if statements” worth learning if you have the intentions of leading a more productive life.

1. If you don’t understand the product or service, don’t buy it until you do.
2. If you do not take ownership of your actions, your actions will eventually own you.
3. If you are not saving at least 10% of your salary, you are not saving enough.
4. If you talk too much, people will stop listening. If you don’t talk enough, people will never hear your point of view.
5. If you are lazy, you will fail. Laziness will always overshadow your true potential.
6. If you hate your job, you also hate half of the time you spend on this planet.
7. If you are not investing (120 minus your age) percent of your savings in the stock market, you are giving up thousands of dollars over the course of your lifetime.
8. If you don’t finish what you start, your success rate will always be zero.
9. If you don’t consume enough liquids, you will never be healthy.
10. If your monthly debt payments exceed 40% of your total income, you will go broke if you don’t fix your spending habits promptly.
11. If you avoid your problems, your problems will steer the course of your life.
12. If something sounds too good to be true, it is too good to be true.
13. If you are buying a brand new car every 3-5 years, stop! You are wasting your money.
14. If you don’t keep up with important current events, you will look like an idiot in front of others.
15. If you back-up on a freeway off-ramp, you increase your chances of having an accident by about 1000%. Go to the next exit and turn around.
16. If you are not learning something new every day, you are wasting away days of your life.
17. If you threaten to quit your job, even if it’s a subtle suggestion, you better be ready to leave now.
18. If somebody asks you for your social security number, don’t give it to them!
19. If you are paying high monthly insurance premiums for a lower claim deductible, you are pissing in the wind.
20. If you don’t ever intend to help others, expect them to return the favor.
21. If you don’t learn from your mistakes, you probably aren’t learning much at all.
22. If you don’t dream, you will live solely as an entity of someone else’s dreams.
23. If you are ever confused, don’t be afraid to ask questions.
24. If you don’t listen to good music while exercising, you are missing out on the best part of your workout.
25. If you are not happy, it’s time to change something.
26. If you never stare off into the distance, you’ll never get there.
27. If you dress a certain way, people will treat you a certain way.
28. If you never try something new, your life’s story will be boring.
29. If you aren’t in love, don’t settle.
30. If you are overly emotional right now, make the decision later.

RELATIONSHIP 101 (by hopefulrealist)

I stumbled upon this blog, thanks to my friend who, like most of us, are thinking about her current relationship.

Some of you may know the blogger. Please extend my thanks.

In the dark, hazy, crazy maze of relationships, snippets like these are always welcome.

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1. Never rearrange your life for somebody you are in a relationship with. If you were planning to live abroad, do it. If you wanted to go back to school, then study. Don't move to a different country for a girl/guy unless you have concrete plans to get married, otherwise, you might end up not knowing what you want anymore when the relationship doesn't work out. That said, I don't regret my 2 years, sometimes-long distance relationship with Boogie, or moving back to Manila. I just learned that I'm never going to do that again.

2. Don't just fall into a relationship. Be conscious of every decision you make with the other person, and what you are getting yourself into. If early in the relationship you realize that this guy doesn't possess certain qualities that are important to you, or even worse, has qualities that are dealbreakers for you, end it as soon as possible. Obvious examples can be cheating, lying, disrespect, not so obvious is fear of commitment. Since you don't really talk about it until later on, you don't find out until later on-when you are madly in love and try not to care. But there are signs. Ask about former relationships and stuff like that. You'll get an idea of where his head is at.

3. Trying your best doesn't guarantee that the outcome will be favorable. Some things are beyond your control. You can't control how another person will react or feel about a situation, and you also can't make another person apologize for being the way he/she is. Sometimes people just don't fit, no matter how hard they try. It could be because they are in different stages in life, and they can check back later on-although I wouldn't count on it, or just because they are so fundamentally different, they can't find common ground.

4. Don't be jaded if a relationship doesn't work out. There are billions of people on earth. So one hurt you, and you hurt another. It's not the end of the world, and it doesn't mean everyone will, even if it sure feels like it for a few months after.

5. Don't get into a relationship if you are not ready. Just because he/she is cute, nice, respectful and has a million qualities you like, if you aren't ready, then what can you possibly have to offer? Even after you have had time to heal from the last, you need time to be on your own too.

6. When you choose to love, do it 100%. It's the only way to go. Be smart but don't overthink. Just enjoy the ride.

7. Forgive but don't forget the lessons you learned. After going through heartbreak, we discover this renewed strength, this passion for life we forgot about and find our way back to our original path, and then you meet someone new, and there all that goes!

8. You can use your head without compromising what you feel, and you can use your heart without losing your head.

9. If you really love somebody, you want them to be happy and live their dreams, even if they don't necessarily involve you.

10. Give yourself a break. Stop thinking it's all your fault if it didn't work out. Give yourself time to mourn and grieve. Be with friends who don't mind hearing your thoughts over and over. Don't stop until you find that love inside yourself again. We'll always be ok.

Unwritten

Too bad I cannot post the mp3. (actually got a message from multiply that i posted a music file that "violated" intellectual property rights. gasp! not because i didn't know about this, but because they actually impose the "rule". hahhaa. takot ko lang ma-shutdown. so mega-erase... )

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I am unwritten, can't read my mind, I'm undefined

I'm just beginning, the pen's in my hand, ending unplanned

Staring at the blank page before you

Open up the dirty window

Let the sun illuminate the words that you could not find

Reaching for something in the distance

So close you can almost taste it

Release your inhibitions

Feel the rain on your skin

No one else can feel it for you

Only you can let it in

No one else, no one else

Can speak the words on your lips

Drench yourself in words unspoken

Live your life with arms wide open

Today is where your book begins

The rest is still unwritten

Oh, oh, oh

I break tradition, sometimes my tries, are outside the lines

We've been conditioned to not make mistakes, but I can't live that way

Staring at the blank page before you

Open up the dirty window

Let the sun illuminate the words that you could not find

Reaching for something in the distance

So close you can almost taste it

Release your inhibitions

Feel the rain on your skin

No one else can feel it for you

Only you can let it in

No one else, no one else

Can speak the words on your lips

Drench yourself in words unspoken

Live your life with arms wide open

Today is where your book begins

Feel the rain on your skin

No one else can feel it for you

Only you can let it in

No one else, no one else

Can speak the words on your lips

Drench yourself in words unspoken

Live your life with arms wide open

Today is where your book begins

The rest is still unwritten.

~ Natasha Bedingfield

what we do not have ...

It is in man’s nature to be unsatisfied with what he is, or what he has right now. Whoever said this had it right. No matter how successful we are, no matter how much money we have, how much clutter and mess we’ve amassed, we are never satisfied. We always look for what we do not have. We always want more. We always look into the ‘what-ifs’.

This can be good, provided that what we want makes us become better persons.

But most of the time, the “more” that we want just satisfies our shallow yearnings, which feeds into this cycle of psychosis.

It is a challenge, even a painful struggle, to pause for a while and change our perspective, to rediscover what really matters, to admit to ourselves that happiness does not lie in the temporal things we seek to amass.

So everyday, I hope to be always mindful and grateful for the things that came my way, good or bad, simple or extravagant, extraordinary or not...

For family no matter how dysfunctional it can be,

For good health,

For friends and enemies alike,

For lessons learned,

For opportunities caught and missed,

For sunshine and rain,

For smiles and tears,

For laughter,

For love and pain,

For life.

are you strong enough to be my man?

listen

God, I feel like hell tonight
Tears of rage I cannot fight
I’d be the last to help you understand
Are you strong enough to be my man?

Nothing’s true and nothing’s right
So let me be alone tonight
Cause you can’t change the way I am
Are you strong enough to be my man?

Lie to me
I promise I’ll believe
Lie to me
But please don’t leave

I have a face I cannot show
I make the rules up as I go
It’s try and love me if you can
Are you strong enough to be my man?

When I’ve shown you that I just don’t care
When I’m throwing punches in the air
When I’m broken down and I can’t stand
Will you be strong enough to be my man?

Lie to me
I promise I’ll believe
Lie to me
But please don’t leave

~ sheryl crow

tonight I can write the saddest lines ~ pablo neruda

Write, for example,'The night is shattered

and the blue stars shiver in the distance.'

The night wind revolves in the sky and sings.

Tonight I can write the saddest lines.

I loved her, and sometimes she loved me too.

Through nights like this one I held her in my arms

I kissed her again and again under the endless sky.

She loved me sometimes, and I loved her too.

How could one not have loved her great still eyes.

Tonight I can write the saddest lines.

To think that I do not have her. To feel that I have lost her.

To hear the immense night, still more immense without her.

And the verse falls to the soul like dew to the pasture.

What does it matter that my love could not keep her.

The night is shattered and she is not with me.

This is all. In the distance someone is singing. In the distance.

My soul is not satisfied that it has lost her.

My sight searches for her as though to go to her.

My heart looks for her, and she is not with me.

The same night whitening the same trees.

We, of that time, are no longer the same.

I no longer love her, that's certain, but how I loved her.

My voice tried to find the wind to touch her hearing.

Another's. She will be another's. Like my kisses before.

Her voide. Her bright body. Her inifinite eyes.

I no longer love her, that's certain, but maybe I love her.

Love is so short, forgetting is so long.

Because through nights like this one I held her in my arms

my sould is not satisfied that it has lost her.

Though this be the last pain that she makes me suffer

and these the last verses that I write for her.

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

By: Bo Sanchez

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i'm sure somebody posted this already. but i'm reposting it again, for all those who are married, contemplating marriage or in a long-time relationship, even a short one. something to think about. =)

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During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages break down. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The Key To Succeeding in Marriage Is Not Finding The Right Person; It's Learning To Love The Person You found!

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love."

Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM.. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".. . not just a feeling.

What about love?

Being in a relationship is hard.

You are forced to become mature, to face insecurities, to settle your issues. To learn how to compromise. To see things his way and try to understand. To bend over backwards. To listen. To be patient. To swallow your pride. To learn how to say “I’m sorry,” and mean it.

You need to look at your partner’s faults squarely, and still accept him. To believe in his potential, yet cherish whatever he is and whatever he has right now.

You need to be strong when he is not. Sometimes, you need to pretend you are weak, to validate his strength.

You have to sacrifice some of your dreams so that you can make new dreams together.

So when there are days when I find myself saying, “Ayoko na. Pagod na ako,” I listen to this song. Somehow, my tears dry up, I breathe again, I remember the reasons why choose to be in this relationship. And I move on.

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What if I took my time to love you?

What if I put no one above you?

What if I did the things that really matter?

What if I ran through hoops of disaster?

No one would care if we never made it

We’re in this alone so why don’t we face it

There is no room to blame one another

We just need time to forgive each other

What about love?

What about feeling?

What about all the things that make life worth living?

What about faith?

What about trust?

And tell me baby what about us?

How can I give this love a new beginning?

How can I stop the rain, its never ending?

How do I keep my soul believing?

Memories of how we should be keep calling?

What about love?

What about feeling?

What about all the things that make life worth living?

What about faith?

What about trust?

And tell me baby what about us?

I’ll take the river’s rise

I’ll take the happy times

I’ll take the moments of disaster

What about love?

What about feeling?

What about all the things that make life worth living?

What about faith?

What about trust?

And tell me baby what about us?

~ Lemar

What about love?

Being in a relationship is hard.

You are forced to become mature, to face insecurities, to settle your issues. To learn how to compromise. To see things his way and try to understand. To bend over backwards. To listen. To be patient. To swallow your pride. To learn how to say “I’m sorry,” and mean it.

You need to look at your partner’s faults squarely, and still accept him. To believe in his potential, yet cherish whatever he is and whatever he has right now.

You need to be strong when he is not. Sometimes, you need to pretend you are weak, to validate his strength.

You have to sacrifice some of your dreams so that you can make new dreams together.

So when there are days when I find myself saying, “Ayoko na. Pagod na ako,” I listen to this song. Somehow, my tears dry up, I breathe again, I remember the reasons why choose to be in this relationship. And I move on.

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What if I took my time to love you?

What if I put no one above you?

What if I did the things that really matter?

What if I ran through hoops of disaster?

No one would care if we never made it

We’re in this alone so why don’t we face it

There is no room to blame one another

We just need time to forgive each other

What about love?

What about feeling?

What about all the things that make life worth living?

What about faith?

What about trust?

And tell me baby what about us?

How can I give this love a new beginning?

How can I stop the rain, its never ending?

How do I keep my soul believing?

Memories of how we should be keep calling?

What about love?

What about feeling?

What about all the things that make life worth living?

What about faith?

What about trust?

And tell me baby what about us?

I’ll take the river’s rise

I’ll take the happy times

I’ll take the moments of disaster

What about love?

What about feeling?

What about all the things that make life worth living?

What about faith?

What about trust?

And tell me baby what about us?